Yesterday marked exactly one year since we started the lease on our house here in Canberra, although we didn't move in until December 29, so our real anniversary is still over a month away.
I haven't written much this year, so I thought this would be a good opportunity to digest our experiences over the last year.
As far as Canberra goes, it's definitely a place that's hard to get used to. There are many wealthy people living here, paying exorbitant prices for all living costs. Housing, food, petrol and utilities are much higher than other places we've lived. Supposedly the average income is higher, allowing Canberrans to afford these heavy costs. However, the fact that Queanbeyan exists just outside of the city limits, as a cheaper, if not seedy and run-down alternative to Canberra proper, makes me think that not everyone here is on big wages and increasingly people are choosing to live somewhere more affordable, yet commutable to the city centre.
Organic food supply is tenuous here. One week there is a choice of organic meat at the local supermarkets, the next week there is nothing. The organic stores are pretty much unaffordable. I only go there for a few items and usually only get what's on special. A locally grown supplier has a couple of stores in town which are much more reasonably priced and which have a small selection of organic fruit and vegetables, but being locally grown, the variety is usually very limited for much of the year, especially the organic produce.
I really miss our weekly organic market at Northey Street in Brisbane. The food was abundant, with great variety and very affordable. I also miss the atmosphere of the Northey Street market. There is nothing quite like it here. Weekly markets are huge, housed in monsterous steel sheds, with little to no atmosphere. There are no buskers, nothing in the way of entertainment and kid-friendly activities. There's definitely nothing like a green, leafy hippy vibe anywhere in sight. It's all a little too clean-cut for my liking.
Canberra is a very conservative place and many people have very narrow perspectives here. It's like living in a goldfish bowl. There are lots of government workers who are locked into long term superannuation commitments, who would never leave their jobs, even though they know that the entire system is extremely inefficient and broken. They feel powerless to make any changes, so just keep turning up, getting paid to die a slow death of boredom and meaninglessness.
Attitudes toward health and wellbeing are very disappointing, because of the level of conservatism here. I was reading an online thread in the hopes of finding information about local GPs who practise with some tolerance toward alternative healthcare. I think I googled GP with Naturopath qualifications, or something like that. The poor person who asked the same question in that thread was basically abused for accepting quackery and made fun of in a horrible way. It opened my eyes to the level of blinkered thinking here.
On the upside of life, the kids seem to have found their places in the school and although it was touch-and-go for a while there, especially for Sophia, I believe they are happy there now. The school itself has a lot of problems. It suffers a mixture of politically charged negative behaviour from parents who seem to have no experience of the bigger outside world, financial stress due to its size and perhaps some financial mis-management. It also shows signs of the negative outcomes from being based on a philosophical foundation which is subject to individual interpretation and the conflict that arises when this becomes a wedge between families with differing practices and attitudes. Basically it's the old division due to religious adherence debate. I saw the same shit happening in the homeschooling groups we used to be a part of. It seems that people can't base their lives on an ideal and not come head to head with others that do not share the same ideal.
I actually feel quite free from all that conflict, however. I think it's because we've experienced so many different schools and environments, that I don't feel so hung up about whether we are a 'true' Steiner oriented family or not. Basically we live for ourselves and I don't really care what others think of this.
We have settled into a manageable life here, with the comfort of some friends and support, as well as oppportunity to enjoy the more beautiful aspects of Canberra, especially the natural environment that changes dramatically with the change of seasons.
We will be in for some change next year, however and I am trying to not feel anxious about it and trust the coming experience. Sage's class is losing ten of its students, three of whom are Sage's closest friends. I want to trust that this will work out well for him and that he will make new friends again. The other change will be in Brian's job, which may not exist after June next year. I want to trust that he will find other suitable work, if this happens.
Finally, in many ways, this year has been a good experience for me. It's always good for me to have some distance from my mum's family. The drama that surrounds it is usually very intense and takes its toll on my mum, who then spreads this around to her children. This year was no different. One of her brothers passed away from cancer just last week, causing a great deal of anguish. Aside from the normal grief that comes with losing a family member, the loss of my uncle was intensified because he was estranged from my grandparents before he died and for most of his life, he was quite a troubled guy. As a teenager, he contributed to younger member's experiences of childhood trauma and as an adult, he lived a boozy, drug-addled and sometimes violent life. He was angry and mean, even at the end. I'm so glad I was not close by to all that.
The other good experience for me has been in setting up yoga classes and also working for three months as a support worker for elderly people through an agency. I once again feel employable, skilled and capable outside of the home setting and it's been very positive to get good feedback from those I have been working with. Support work is basically relatively unskilled nursing. It's hard, it's depressing and it involves a lot of showering and wiping bums. I don't think I will ever make a great nurse, so I can't see a long future in it for me, but I'm glad I did it. It can be the most humbling experience, to brush someone's teeth, because Parkinson's disease has taken away their ability to do it for themselves. When I shower these people, I see that their bodies were once strong and healthy and it reminds me that like everything else in this world, nothing is permanant.